Why Are You Taking Rejection Personally?
Women taking rejection personally is nothing new. But because it can completely derail your career, it’s an essential pitfall to address and overcome. Having a clear understanding and strong belief about why you chose your business and how it serves you and your family, will provide you with the strength to walk away from the naysayers unscathed.
In order to let any rejection you receive roll off your back, you need a strong clear reason why you’re in your business for yourself. Just saying you want to make more money is not going to do it.
To get to the heart of this you’ll need to determine your “WHY”, your compelling reason that gets you motivated each day to persevere when times are challenging and naysayers persist. If you’ve been in direct sales for a while you’ve heard this concept before and have probably gone through exercises to create your WHY. But honestly if rejection is still affecting you – you probably don’t have a strong and compelling enough reason WHY.
Here are the five steps to help you find your compelling reason “Why” along with examples of how to work through these questions:
Step 1: What are my biggest challenges right now?
1) Bad Health
3) Not enough Savings
Step 2: What is the opposite of each of my challenges?
1) I’m strong and healthy
2) I’m debt free
3) I have plenty of savings
Step 3: Imagine being in this new place where I’ve achieved the opposite of my challenge. Describe how I’d feel.
1) Strong and capable
3) Relieved there’s a cushion
Step 4: Also, imagine what I’m now capable of accomplishing without having that challenge.
1) Able to participate in family activities
2) Able to save for the future and provide a good education for my children
3) Able to travel, care for elderly parents, volunteer
Step 5: Put all these points together and create a new statement that defines why I’m doing what I’m doing.
- I want to be strong and healthy so I’m able to participate in activities with my family.
- I want to be debt free so that I can save for my family’s future and provide my children with the education they deserve.
- I want to have plenty of savings so I can care for my elderly parents or spend some of my time volunteering.
The reality is that many people will say “no” for reasons that have nothing at all to do with you as a person. And after getting very clear on the “why”—thereby handling the rejection more easily—the “no’s” will motivated you to keep searching for that person who “gets it.” There’s nothing like connecting with that person who’s perfectly suited for what you do, and has that same drive within them.
Guest Blogger Kim DeYoung, the Get it Done Girl, is the founder of Get it Done U, the how-to resource for the busy entrepreneur. Kim inspires entrepreneurs through her training and coaching programs to get it done so they can create a meaningful, profitable and STRESS-FREE business.